inMy Story

Touch

Since I remember I have always been appreciative of healing touch. I was involved in hands on treatments to improve the well-being of others.

First, I used touch to heal my dolls and teddy bears. Much later, I learned specific massage techniques, which I practised diligently on family and friends. With persistence and experimentation, I have become effective.

Inquisitive mind

I have an inquisitive mind which pushes me to question conventional knowledge, including my own. I love concepts which shake my foundations. I love concepts which challenge me to re-evaluate who I am and what I want. I love concepts which push me to grow.

Over the years I have been through multiple crises. Earthquakes of novel thoughts were smashing my carefully built houses of ideas and beliefs. The whole world collapsed indeed many times, but I seem to survive and learn to adjust.

Tester

I am a tester, which means I put things to test. If I like an idea, a concept or a method, I will test it extensively and modify it both from and by experience. This is a fantastic fastline approach as it allows me to build skills, develop intuition, and constantly adjust the techniques in a relatively short time. As I have long abandoned my fear of social disapproval, I am eager to take risk in developing ideas and testing them.

I love asking questions and looking for answers, so if you want to see a probe of what puzzles me, look at www.elapekalska.com.

Scientist

My path has led me through various healing modalities and approaches, some quackery too. Mostly self-learned. My main path was that of a scientist in pattern recognition, which was about recognising patterns by computer means.

I loved it deeply.

I got a PhD degree (with distinction for my stubborn efforts to investigate off-beaten paths in non-metric spaces). I have worked at university for in the UK. If you are interested, you can glance through my publications here.

The surprise

The arrival of three beautiful kids in a short time created an unpredictable chain of events in my life. The vision of blissful life with sweet little babies proved to be totally untrue. Their health challenges questioned everything I imagined on how to be a mother. And, honestly, I was not prepared to be one.

My thinking, adapted from problem solving to helping the kids become well, proved unsuccessful. How to be well turned out to be much more difficult than thinking about hard mathematical problems. I was devastated.

Helplessness

The feeling of helplessness was overwhelming. I lacked knowledge, understanding and guidance. I felt deeply alone. I was running in vicious circles of ignorance and stress. It was tough.

I could not see a way forward and I was stuck. My mind hated the difficulties my logic could not solve. Up and downs, with the majority of downs, was my daily bread.

I intuitively knew that it was possible for my kids to get better, but I did not know how. In my quest I began to test everything I could learn. I was on mission to find out a way forward.

Learning

I began to learn from books and online courses at first. I have slept very little for a number of years and survived thanks to yoga nidra. I read like crazy. Then I tested the approaches on myself and later on kids. It was largely a trial and error guided by intuition.

I tried a number of therapies. I paid professionals and I was learning what worked and what not. Some therapies were more beneficial than others, but all in all it was way too little to make a breakthrough. I needed something on daily basis.

Chinese medicine

In my searches I discovered a few promising directions: Chinese medicine, herbs and osteopathy. I began to learn and apply them.

Over time my kids have tremendously benefited from the treatments. Not only their health improved but also their learning difficulties were solved. I was astonished. In comparison to many holistic approaches, Tui Na medical massage, acupressure and herbal medicine certainly stand out.

Yay! I was pleased. I wanted to learn these professionally in order to be in charge of the health adventure I was in.

Professional therapist

As I have learned and grown in understanding what well-being was about. I felt encouraged to switch the paths, from a scientist to a therapist.

The mental shift occurred when I allowed my mind to enjoy a full exploration and to replace the joy of contribution by creative thought by the joy of helping others to become integrated Selves. As a result, I can consolidate approaches and combine paradoxes from different healing methodologies.

As a therapist, I am still a scientist inside. I can move at depth and width and integrate approaches.

This is unique what I offer to help you heal.